Embrace Aging And Your Own Beauty
By: Daniele Winston
November 20, 2021
“Aging has a wonderful beauty and we should have respect for that.”
~ Eartha Kitt
Birthdays are the stuff of memories - happy cake-filled days, gathering with friends to appreciate the life you've been given. Ironically though, there is a real disconnect between birthdays and the aging process, at least for women. No matter what age you are, each moment that passes carries huge significance - that you are becoming older. Imagine if, instead of dreading the changes brought on by the passage of time, you actually looked forward to them? Science tells us the cells in your body are constantly renewing themselves, people are living longer, and are more vital than ever. Different stages of life awaken new curiosity and adventures. Through the passage of time, lessons learned, and wisdom gained, you reinvent what it means to be you. The ‘you’ of childhood is different from adolescence, adulthood, etc.
Men like George Clooney are the silver standard of hotness and, by contrast, older women are viewed in a much harsher, more unforgiving light. Thankfully, that outdated mindset is evolving as women empower themselves with an age-positive outlook. A shimmering example is the movement of women ditching hair color and showing off their silver roots. The trend has rocketed in some circles, most notably the Silver Sisters, who proudly rock their natural locks.
Considering how the entertainment community puts youth on a pedestal, it was a bold move, when actor, Andie Macdowell, (63), publicly unveiled her Goddess-like salt-and-pepper tresses at this year’s Cannes Film Festival. Highlighted by a smokey sequin gown, Macdowell made a head-turning statement about aging, beauty and self-acceptance. In an intriguing role reversal, Macdowell, said in her Vogue interview, during lockdown, that she became inspired by looking at real women, transitioning to gray.
When her managers objected to the idea, Macdowell held firm, and told them, “I’m going to be more powerful if I embrace where I am right now. It’s time, because in two years I’m going to be 65. If I don’t do it now, I won’t have the chance to be salt and pepper. I always wanted to be salt and pepper!”
After making the change, Macdowell said, “I feel really comfortable. And in a lot of ways, I think it’s more striking on my face. I don’t want people to have the expectation that I need to look younger to have value or to be beautiful or desirable. We don’t do that to men! We love men as they age. I would love the same expectation for women, and we’re getting there, you know, baby steps.”
Photographer: Jill Greenburg
Supermodel, actor, and writer, Paulina Porizkova, is also using her platform to spotlight age-positivity. In 2019, Paulina's loving ode to her aging neck, went viral on Instagram. Today the healthy-aging activist is making her voice heard, and body more visible than ever; on the August cover of La Magazine, Paulina appears nude in a playful pose, further raising awareness and helping to squash static definitions of female sexuality.
In a recent Instagram post, Paulina (54) referenced a photo of Sarah Jessica Parker, having lunch, makeupless with gray-streaked hair, which had received some cruel pushback. Reframing Parker as an identifiable heroine, Paulina said, “Oh thank you thank you! Someone who is my age who looks like me. She makes me feel like I’m not a freak for aging - because fashionable, beautiful, stylish her - is doing it too. And she looks amazing.”
Self-care is the manifestation of love and kindness toward yourself. As your body changes, skin, hair, bones and internal systems evolve too. It becomes increasingly important to incorporate health and wellness rituals into your life. Sleep is crucial, as it gives your organs a chance to rest and replenish, fosters cell regeneration, and optimum brain function. Reduce energy-depleting, dehydrating, processed foods, in favor of nutrient-dense plant-based choices, rich in vitamins, and antioxidants to further keep your body and mind functioning at its best. Exercise keeps the mind active along with the body. It also allows the lymph to flow, fosters immunity, fires off joyful endorphins and promotes cardiac health.
Looking your best as you age also involves mindfully caring for your skin. Interestingly, one of the main causes of premature fine lines, wrinkles, discolored spots and sagging skin, is not the passage of time. It’s the sun. So protect skin against photo-aging by applying antioxidants liberally to face, hands, neck, and exposed parts of your body, to combat free radical damage; and a broad spectrum sunscreen to deflect UVA and UVB rays. When it comes to skincare, each ingredient matters. Choose chemical-free products that nurture with the highest quality formulations.
Hands are known for showing age quickly, with dry, thin skin, and hyper-pigmentation spots. Kat Burki's Hand Therapy quenches and heals with vitamin-rich KB5™ Complex, Cold Processed Oils, and flower extracts.
Your go-to facial moisturizer is the Super Peptide Firming Creme – intensely hydrating and firming, for all skin types, lovely on mature skin. The powerhouse Tri-Peptide (tm) complex plumps, and strengthens to enhance elasticity. Other ingredients include plant stem cells, silk protein amino acid blend, green tea extract, Niacinamide and CoQ10.
Rose Hip Intense Recovery Eye Serum – Be kind to the delicate skin in the eye area with this gentle, dewy serum that revives weary eyes. Antioxidants protect against free radical damage and heal, along with the super nutrient complex of RoseHip Seed Oil and Vitamin C (STAY-C), with DMAE and Retinol (plant-based ROVISOME).
As you get older, mindfulness becomes even more important, allowing you to appreciate the joy and wisdom contained in each moment. In the words of actor Jamie Lee Curtis, “If I can challenge old ideas about aging, I will feel more and more invigorated. I want to represent this new way. I want to be a new version of the 70-year-old woman. Vital, strong, very physical, very agile. I think that the older I get, the more yoga I'm going to do.” What if the term anti-aging was viewed differently? Suppose it was about refusing to be stereotyped, making your voice heard, and doing the things you love? Appreciate the resilient body you've been given; keep it healthy, joyful, and balanced, growing more beautiful as the years progress.