Fertility in the Age of Aquarius
BY: Kimberly Cihlar
JUNE 20, 2021
The OG New Age dance riffs of “Little Star,” Madonna’s ode to baby daughter Lourdes, popped up on Pandora the other day, the singer’s sweet lyrics shining a light on a mother’s spiritual love.
"God gave a present to me / Made of flesh and bones / My life, my soul / You make my spirit whole…..Never forget where you come from / From LOVE.”
Creation of a human is definitely a sacred dance of spiritual proportions, a natural progression, the continuity of life. An egg produced around every 28 days, two Beings intertwined in love and connection, sperm released to fertilize the egg, and then an embryo developing into a fetus, and nine months later, a living breathing human child.
Illustration by @spiritysol
But what happens if Mother Nature won’t, or can’t do her part, and getting pregnant naturally doesn’t occur? Stats show that one in eight couples have problems conceiving. Male and female infertility is about equal. 40-50% of unknown factors balanced between the two sexes, with age the most important factor affecting a woman’s fertility. Then, what to do if time is running out?
Thank goodness for science! In the 1950s, medicine brought fertility and conception into the lab through reproductive endocrinology. Two of the most common fertility treatments are:
- intrauterine insemination (IUI) - where sperm is placed in the uterus, to allow conception to happen “normally;” and
- in vitro fertilization, or IVF - which combines eggs and sperm outside of the body in a laboratory, and once fertilized, that embryo is placed into the womb. Today, IVF is so well-known, it’s become a household term. We’ve come leaps and bounds from Louise Brown, the first human conceived outside her mother's womb and born in the UK in 1978, who was labeled a “test-tube baby."
Today, add epigenetics. Introduced in the late ‘50s by British developmental biologist, Conrad Waddington, epigenetics is the biological study of “the causal interactions between genes and their products which bring the phenotype into being,’’ according to studies on ncbi.nlm.nih.gov. Put simply, epigenetics is the study of DNA methylation. This is a change of the DNA segment activity, or inherited gene variance, that can alter gene expression, suppress gene expression (including genetically inherited diseases), and the association with male infertility. Bring that genetic suppression, or uptake — in other words, epigenetics — into the dance of conception, when perhaps age and lack of fertile eggs are inhibiting factors, and the magic of science in the field of fertility is undeniable.
Neeley Moore, a London-based reflexologist/holistic practitioner, is a testament to that magic. She attributes her fertility, and conception at the age 46 of son Wylder Rae Moore, to “science and sacred dance working together perfectly.” Prior to epigenetics, she tried two rounds of IVF in the UK, using her own eggs without results. So, in 2018, Moore traveled to Copenhagen’s StorkKlinik (founded by Nina Stork), to be among the first women to utilize Denmark’s newly-amended law allowing double donation. “I wanted to use my own egg but,” due to low levels of her anti-mullerian egg-tracking supply hormone, she could not. She opted for both egg and sperm cell donors, embracing “science” and “the whole concept, because I had the understanding of epigenetics, and I believe in soul contracts and spirit guides.” She got pregnant on her first attempt.
“It’s really tough to conceive. I was very lucky. I went from a 5% chance of conceiving at age 43 to 55% at 46. I always believed I was gonna become a mum.” She says she left no stone unturned. She took a functional medicine approach to her conception quest, changing her nutrition to embrace a fertility-friendly diet with specific supplements, gave up alcohol and caffeine, added in kundalini yoga, chanting and breathwork to let go of stored grief. “I used moxa, castor oil wraps to cleanse the organs, juice cleanses and certain supplements. In hindsight, there were things I do now that I wish I had done prior. It has to be total health. And you must look at your DNA to see how you are methylating, to see what cells are not working properly.”
Explaining her epigenetics odyssey, “it’s the science of health around the environment of the cell. It’s like the engine of the car is the DNA and the accelerator is the epigenetics. I was the environment, and I got to switch on and off what was expressing this moment of ‘now.’ This included my environment, my thoughts, my nutrition, my exercise, all the things I was doing. I got to turn on, or turn off, the expression of cells as they were developing or multiplying, as they were developing for the baby. There was a cellular connection to my spirit child within the embryo. This is the field of epigenetics.”
With IVF, she chose the donor profiles; with StorkKlinik, she let them choose compatible profiles. “Someone with the same sort of features, blue eyes, height, a good person with a good heart. I just handed it to the clinic. They are amazingly family-orientated, in line with eco and green values, and fairness and equality. I felt so aligned and very held.”
Epigenetics, teamed with yoga, nutrition with the right supplements, and a soulful, spiritual approach was the magic Neeley needed. She’s one of many modern women turning to science, while mixing in more holistic modalities, to help increase fertility — meditation, marma, qigong, acupuncture and acupressure. In fact, there are many acupoints, like Liver 3 and Stomach 35, useful for conception and pregnancy.
Speaking with Neeley online, I watch her son Wylder Rae cavorting in the sunshine behind her, his baby blond head popping in and out of the screen. “To get here, we came through extraordinary conditions, and he’s such a spirit, in an extraordinary way, such a strong spirit.” At almost two and a half years old, he’s a bundle of toddler energy, on the run one minute, tuckered out the next, a magnificent manifestation of the magic of Science and Spirituality. That, and total, infinite, eternal, unwavering belief in motherly love.
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